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Aging
As we age the temptation is to assume everything we've learned or experienced will be of interest or value to the next generation. It's not necessarily so.

Wisdom in aging is to discern between those things that are of interest or value to the next generation and those things we'd simply like to share.

Carol and I shared a meal with long time friends in which we discussed the challenges of our aging parents and what we wanted to learn from the experience as we faced our own aging process.

I suggested we write those things, seal the envelope, and open it when we reach 70.

On the way home we composed this list...

 

Moerman 'Kids' in 2008

Murray and Carol's adult 'kids' in 2008

  1. ask for their stories rather than telling ours

  2. remember the point, don't multiply details

  3. keep description of ailments to the minimum

  4. invite others opinions on current events

  5. listen more than talk

  6. speak hope and encouragement

  7. ask "can I help?" (but don't insist)

  8. don't stay too long

  9. ask "how can I pray?"

  10. don't repeat yourself (stories, perspectives, experiences)